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“but, you don’t look like a karate instructor…”

I get this a lot.  When someone asks me what I “do” and I answer truthfully with “I teach martial arts”, I get this look and the comment, “but you don’t look like a karate instructor”.  It makes me laugh every time.  What is a martial arts instructor supposed to look like?  Like Mr. Miyagi…

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No way! Not my kid!

You get a phone call from the school or another parent telling you your child is bullying other children; you can’t believe it!  Your sweet child with the soft heart could not possibly be capable of behaving that way.  I remember very well having these same thoughts when I got that phone call many years…

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Don’t take it personally…

In our karate classes, we are in week 2 of working on how to deal with bullies.  While we are working on certain physical aspects (after all, it is a karate class) we are also concentrating on the mental aspects. I have learned from talking with the kids, that they really feel like there is…

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What kids want to know about bullying…

With the start of the school year coming up, I decided that this last karate session for the summer was going to address bullying more in depth. While my dojos are in small towns, that doesn’t mean we don’t have our fair share of this problem.  In fact, I was surprised to see how many…

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Bullying…it’s not just for kids

Have you ever been bullied?  I don’t mean the playground variety of bully, I mean the victim of a person that needs to use power to project their own feelings of inadequacy onto another person in order to feel better about themselves, leaving you feeling awful every time you have to interact with them.  Examples of…

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signals of aggression

Signals of aggression can help us to predict violence.  Some signals can be very obvious, but others are more subtle.  A person can tell lies, but their body language tells a different story.  Our limbic reactions are automatic.  Needs, feelings, thoughts and intentions are processed by the limbic brain and expressed in body language.  The…

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Respect

Respect.  It is highly valued.  It is sometimes demanded when not earned.  It is often withheld when it should not be.  In karate, we often discuss respect.  “Do not forget that karate-do begins and ends with Rei” is the first of Funakoshi’s 20 precepts. (The Twenty Guiding Principles of Karate. The spiritual legacy of the…

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Working with what you have

When I first start working with a group for a self-defense workshop, they inevitably get caught up in what they don’t have.  I hear many different concerns.  Sometimes people think they can’t protect themselves because of what they view as physical short-comings such as not being strong, tall or fast.  Sometimes they think they are…

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Click

When you are trying to learn a skill, there is that moment when it all seems to come together and your brain/body connection snaps into place.  You may come close many times before that, but there is that “click” that happens when everything comes together.  You can find this moment in almost anything: the first…

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To leave or not to leave…

If you have never been in an abusive relationship or been really close to someone who is, it may be difficult for you to understand why the victim doesn’t just leave, break off all contact, get a restraining order or a divorce.   The realities of domestic abuse are not as black and white as…

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