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Technology and Domestic Abuse

Technology is a blessing and a curse to victims of domestic abuse. It can be a great tool to get help when you need it.  However, the advances in tech also make it easier for an abuser to control, harass and stalk their victims.  I sometimes hear people joking about facebook stalking other people, but…


workplace bullying (part 1)

Last week I reposted a blog about adult bullying.  All types of adult bullying are disturbing, but I think workplace bullying is especially difficult to deal with.  It resembles domestic abuse in that the very nature of the the relationship – business – keeps the victim close. The bully is able to keep the target…


who has their back?

Last week, I had the wonderful opportunity to be a presenter at Fort HealthCare’s Camp 911.  Camp 911 is a one day camp for kids filled with 1/2 hour classes.  Examples of the classes presented were bike and outdoor safety, mindfulness, CPR & first aid, yoga, a tour of the Smoke House, our police K-9…


Emotions and self-defense

As I was preparing for a self-defense workshop with PADA, I got to thinking about the emotional side of self-defense.  It’s the part of self-defense we don’t really like to think about.  We’ll talk about safety measures and things to do to keep yourself from danger.  We’ll discuss behaviors to watch out for.  Then it…


Whatever happened to being kind?

This last week, I’ve seen a lot of posts about problems with bullying in our community. As always, this gets me just as upset as the parents who are dealing with it and I get to wondering all the same questions they have; why it happens, how it continues to happen and how to stop…



Physical abuse can often be seen, but what about what you can’t see?  What about the things agencies like PADA and the police can’t do anything about?  What about the emotional manipulation that crushes self-esteem, makes you feel badly about things you are proud of and makes your soul feel dark?  In these blogs, I…


It’s not one size fits all

When it comes to self-protection, one size does not fit all.  Statistically, attacks against men are significantly different than those against females.  Matt Thompson of www.modelmuggging.org researched 3000 assaults back in the early 1970s and what he found was that when men attack men, it’s territorial. There’s a “squaring off” behavior; it’s a fight.  However,…


Teen dating violence

Teen dating violence is defined by the CDC as the physical, sexual, psychological or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking.  It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner.  According to the annual report in fall of 2015 from http://www.endabusewi.org, 81% of parents don’t think dating…



  Imagine for a moment that you are a woman out with her friends at a bar or club. There is a man that keeps interjecting into your conversations trying to get your attention.  You are polite and answer him so as not to be rude, and do it with a smile on your face.…

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